Random Thoughts

Marriage Vs Love Marriage

This is one of the contemporary and most pondered topic that the present generation have in there discussion. What exactly is marriage? As far as I can see in the practical scenario and very much in bound to India, I feel that it’s a obligation to know the second person for you have been destined so. Also, the way it goes in India, it’s more or less painful as in the case when grooms are on the receiving side, and brides are on the giving away side. I don’t know much about the real dowry transaction that follows up, but many learned people from the groom’s side site out that the charge huge dowry and that too proudly as they had spent the same amount upon bringing him up. Now this is really ridiculous, and the ridicule can be ridiculed in various ways. Firstly, if you are spending so much for your kids, are you expecting a return from them? Or, is it one of those kinds of insurance schemes where on maturity here in this case on marriage you reap profit on investment. Who says that Indians are not business people? Now from the bride side, they are always on the giving side. “Kanyadan”, giving away the daughter ceremony, where the father is supposed to hand over her daughter to her future fate master. Now how cruel can this be, as in it reminds me of fairy tale Hansel and Gretel, the one in which the father leaves his kids in forest so that they can have less stomachs to feed. Thou, the reason here is not hunger, it is one of the most complicated web that man have framed around him, which he proudly calls as society. The tear shedding seems to be authentic in this situation, for they are giving away their daughter and also big bucks. On one end it’s a nightmare for one family i.e. the bride’s family and the other side its festive season on the grooms side. There are cases where the groom side family handover the requirement of dowry first, before anything thing. Man is supposed to be a social animal, but at places he simply omits the social part. They just stop caring about people around you, as in they stop respecting all the hardship and all the cost cutting the other family has done to heap up for dowry. This can be attributed as an inhuman behavior of highest degree. Can’t these people ever recognize the fact that they are giving away there daughter to them. The holiness of the nuptial knot is lost here itself. And this is even sicker when we witness these kinds of engagements in a learned society. These people have a big mouth when they have to talk of equality between boys and girls, but suddenly this modern outlook fades out when it comes to marriage. What I feel is that these people educate their daughter and make out of them good engineers and doctors just for the fact that they get a good groom. I guess they would have never imagined there daughters to work or stand on their feet even in their dreams. How badly is our country losing the feminine power from the nation building?

Now let me not talk business and get to the more humane side of the discussion, society. Well all know that marriage is a big event in a society. Now, we all would agree that in India the marriage is based on click basis. Here the click is used as a double meaning word. The first one being that the click happens from the either side, but more important that that is the actual click, I mean the photo that is presented to the groom or the bride. Since the bride are at the receiving end they don’t have a much say to the click except for the fact that they ensure that the click that is circulated to the grooms side is the best available. If in USA marriage is a dating game, in India I would call it as window shopping more over body shopping. 99% of the groom community wants there bride to be out of the world beautiful, and what more than a click would be required to ascertain that. So, now the bride side has an additional cost to bear, the cost to look out of the world. The formal dialogues pre-engagement are some hardly countable hours, in which you have to infer from the hypothetical presentation from each side. I mean when you are just showing up the greener side of the leaf then how are we supposed to know if there is a moth’s cocoon at its back.

ps:To be continued...

Our Earth a Cosmic Ball

Random Thoughts: My Opine
Our Earth a Cosmic Ball

As I look up, the night sky seems to be a static and cloistered from our earth. The moon is the bright and the largest entity among the volley of stars. As I look up and think of time as an entity I feel that the quantization of time bears two different units for us the mortals and other for the heavenly immortals. When I was a kid and looked up at the night sky they bore a configuration, and now too they bore a same configuration as for a mundane person like me who does not get into nit gritty of Astronomy. What is a ‘SECOND’ for them absolutely nothing for them not-even a miniscule for them. And light year which is unfathomable to us is the unit of there time.

What if god really existed??[I am an Atheist] but still what if he really existed in Himalayas or for that sake any part of the universe. May be Jupiter, Pluto or where ever possible may be. What if there are more than one God[Though religious literature of many of the religion explicitly states that there is only one god and that is theirs] But since science or our any of our religious institutions have not yet proved these facts let me take the liberty to assume that there are more than one god. Rather there are many gods.

Now as a living being I am bound to “Karma” as in all actions that I do as a speck with respect to the Universe, [In reality we are not even a spec w.r.t to the Universe] and the limited actually a very limited thinking and conceiving power that I do possess [I am assuming it for granted] I am assuming that Gods are also bound too “Karma”. [Now I am confused, for “karma” can only be attributed to mortals, but may be the gods too are mortals but immortal with respect to us, as I have already sighted the difference in unit of time that is common to us are very much different for the mortals and the heavenly immortals], so am assuming that gods too are bound by “karma”.

But where are we with all this story telling and intricate tales?? Well before revealing out this to you, let me also clarify my concept of “karma”, for me it is a verb, that it signifies motion. Any thing that moves or takes place is ‘karma’.

The picture that I was trying to put up was rather as our earth; rather our whole universe is part of the game of the gods. A complex game with a lasting time of a period which we cant even think of. A game may be like snooker, or billiards or rather something that is remotely fathomable. And may be one hit by the cue has set us rotating around the sun or may it is one of the legendary ‘Bend it like Beckham’ kick and we are still transferring towards the goal. What so be it, but who are we then? Where do we come from in the world of god dome. Were we really planted by our saviors our lord our god or were we just started to exist and may be he never came to know about it.

Well, ever thought what your snooker ball or a football might be carrying with them while you are having a good time with them?? The only thing that I can thing of residing and living on the surface of the play ball are bacteria or viruses. [Sorry, but I have already mentioned about my short coming w.r.t to limited thinking capability and now putting in a more gullible manner my shallow knowledge in the field of biology]. So as far as I can think viruses and bacteria are the only living entity that might exist on the surface of a play ball.

Now that I have stated my picture to you, it might be easy for you to think what’s on my mind a real picture would really look like. Well yes we are bacteria/viruses residing and colonizing over the Cosmic Ball. And yes as don’t even think or care about the livings over our play ball the same may be the case with the gods, they might not even know that we existed.

On the other side I was thinking whether the viruses or the bacteria that we deal with are enough literate to think as I am thinking or may be the one of them that has been residing on the Beckham’s shoot be articulating the same thoughts?? So my take is: bigger the difference in the unit of time for us & the heavenly bodies the lengthier will be our existence and yes the dooms day may be a Golden Goal.

Now for the moral: Watch the night sky and don’t think. Night time is supposedly for sleeping, [Xcept for Nocturnal’s like me] & not for scribbling. So next time you ever look at the heavenly sky at night just enjoy the vast serenity of the space the beautiful moon and the twinkling stars and then jus go to sleep .